"Detach from the abuser by eliminating the hooks. A hook is typically an emotional, psychological or physical stake that you have in the other person and the relationship. For example, GUILT is a big hook that keeps many people in abusive relationships with destructive narcissistic, borderline and histrionic partners. “I don’t how he'll take care of himself. What would he do without me? I’d feel guilty if I left because of the kids (or dogs). The flip side of guilt is EGO. If you leave an abusive person, I hate to break it to you, but they’ll do just fine without you or if you already left the person, they ARE fine without you. They'll probably try to suck you dry financially while lining up the next target to control and abuse. It’s not personal. These personalities view others as objects to be used. They’ll simply replace you or has already with another object and do the same damn thing to the next person. Guilt is a control device people uses to keep you in line. Other hooks include shame (e.g., of failing or not being strong enough), loss of status (e.g., being perceived as a nice or good guy), loss of material assets or access to children or dogs, perfectionism and your own need to control others, situations and outcomes."

- www.jacquesviljoen.co.za/emotional-detachment-techniques.html