"Here are some typical spoken or unspoken rules in unhealthy family systems: 1.Do what “looks good”, even if it is dishonest 2.Don’t be a bother and don’t rock the boat 3.Deny things you don’t want to see, and they will go away 4.Do what I say, even when I do the opposite 5.Express only happy positive feelings 6.It is wrong to be angry or sad 7.You must never question our behavior, but go along with it 8.You must conform to what we expect of you, no matter what 9.Your needs are not as important as our needs "

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